Friday, November 21, 2014

The Bamboo Lesson

 Every Step In Your Journey Is Important

Bamboo is one of the most amazing plants in the world.
In fact, a single stalk of bamboo has more tensile strength than a steel cable of the same thickness!
(In South America, it’s referred to as “vegetable steel”).
A rope made of bamboo fibers can get up to 20% stronger when wet, as opposed to hemp, which weakens.
And it grows. Fast.
Some species of the plant can grow a staggering 3 feet in a 24 hour period and reach over 100 feet in height!
It’s the most rapidly growing plant on earth. It’s used for everything from construction, to medicine, to cooking, to textiles.
But if you were to plant a handful of bamboo seeds in the ground tomorrow, you’d be incredibly disappointed.
Why?

Monday, June 2, 2014

Signs You Are Doing Much Better Than You Think.

19 Signs You’re Doing Better than You Think
Even in uncertain times, it’s always important to keep things in perspective.
True wealth is the ability to fully experience life.
- Henry David Thoreau
  1. You are alive.
  2. You are able to see the sunrise and the sunset.
  3. You are able to hear birds sing and waves crash.
  4. You can walk outside and feel the breeze through your hair and the sun’s warmth on your skin.

Friday, May 16, 2014

Sure-Fire Steps To Combat Procrastination


You really want to open a blog, put in an entry for a writing contest, compose an article or blog post, or do something else … something big but you realise you keep postponing doing so time and time again.
You know why?
You are being played by a thief of progress called procrastination. This thief prevents you from taking the necessary steps you need to take to achieve your goals. It turns you into a mediocre … always wishing … never doing the needful … never daring the odds … never conquering new territories … never breaking barriers.
Just WISHING.

Knowing and removing the barrier

This is the part where you get to know the thief and how it operates.
Procrastination works mainly on two human tendencies: the tendency to have fear and the tendency to give excuses.
Long ago, I nursed the desire to launch my online platform. But procrastination had the better of me for about a year. Yes, a solid whole year!
Guess how? By simply capitalising on those human tendencies.
First, it gave me the clichéd EXCUSE of busy schedule – internships, exams, chores, studies, outings, errands and whatnot.
In another breath, it instilled several FEARS in me – the fear of failing, of turning out a mediocre, of betraying expectations, or simply not being good enough.
I lingered in this state for long until I realised what works.

Attitude Of Winners

Your attitude is incredibly important. It can be the determining factor as to whether or not you fail or succeed in sports and in life. A positive attitude will propel you to success while a negative attitude will cause you to crash and burn.
Here's another way to view your attitude. Picture an apple seed. Imagine yourself taking the seed out of an apple and planting it in the ground. What type of plant do you think will grow out of that seed?

Monday, May 5, 2014

How are you building your life?...

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An elderly carpenter was ready to retire. He told his employer-contractor of his plans to leave the house building business and live a more leisurely life with his wife enjoying his extended family. He would miss the paycheck, but he needed to retire. They could get by.

13 unbelievable Benefits of Exercising

 
Many people hit the gym or pound the pavement to improve cardiovascular health, build muscle, and of course, get a rockin’ bod, but working out has above-the-neck benefits, too. For the past decade or so, scientists have pondered how exercising can boost brain function. Regardless of age or fitness level (yup, this includes everyone from mall-walkers to marathoners), studies show that making time for exercise provides some serious mental benefits. Get inspired to exercise by reading up on these unexpected ways that working out can benefit mental health, relationships, and lead to a healthier and happier life overall.

Monday, April 28, 2014

These 3 Questions Will Free Your Mind and Turn Your Life Around...



3 Questions that Will Free Your Mind and Turn Your Life Around
“Judge a man by his questions rather than by his answers.”
―Voltaire
It’s not the answers you get from others, but the questions you ask yourself that will help you grow stronger.  In fact, the simple questions you ask yourself on a daily basis will determine the type of person you become in the long run.
And that’s precisely why we recorded today’s video blog post – to help you embark on a positive journey of self-inquiry.

Keep in mind that these questions have no right or wrong answers…
Because sometimes asking the right questions IS the answer.

1.  If you had a friend who spoke to you in the same way that you sometimes speak to yourself, how long would you allow this person to be your friend?

Wednesday, April 23, 2014

8 Things You Should Do Daily To Strengthen Your Mental, Physical, Emotional & Spiritual Life

8 Daily Habits That Will Surely Improve Your Living


Life these days has become so hectic that it’s very easy for us to get caught up in just trying to “survive” each day. By “surviving” we’re not referring to making sure we have something to eat and drink each day; “surviving” has become so much more complicated than that. For many people, “surviving” a day means being able to accomplish what others expect of them — “others” being the boss, the spouse, children, parents, friends, and so on.
While there’s nothing wrong with meeting others’ expectations, the danger in getting to pre-occupied with doing so, you begin to lose track of the most important person in the world: ME, …… I mean YOU!
Keep in mind that you’re trying to meet other people’s expectations either because these people are instrumental in the goals you want to accomplish (such as your boss who plays the lead part in your career and financials) or because they are people you care about (such as family and friends). In both cases, you need to make sure that you’re fully armed and equipped, so that you have a lot of yourself to share with others.
So here are 8 simple self-improvement habits that you can do each day to enrich yourself in four major areas of your life:
 

1. Complete a challenging puzzle or solve a challenging problem early in the day.

Apart from recent findings linking it to staving off aging-related dementia, doing a mental puzzle early in the day benefits the mind like exercise benefits the body; it’s a strengthening workout, which, in the case of a mental puzzle completed early in the day, keeps the mind sharp and warms it up to prepare it to face the cognitive rigors everyone deals with daily.
Sites like theproblemsite.com feature mental puzzles that you can do daily and take up very little of your time — a simple intellectual investment that goes a long way.
 

2. Get moving on something you’ve always wanted to learn.

Whether it be knitting, baking, or computer programming, there’s always something you’ve always wanted to learn but have never found the time for because of your daily preoccupations. Well, you don’t need to wait for your next vacation just to get started on learning a new skill. Instead, you can learn it a little each day by slowly reading a book on it or enrolling in an online course that allows you to work at your own pace.
What’s important is that you’re progressing a little each time towards a new skill that you’ve always wanted to acquire. Before you know it, you’ve learned something you’ve always wanted to, and it’s time to move on to the next learning goal for your continued self-improvement. 
 

3. Do a little resistance exercise.

Resistance exercise is any physical activity that involves a significant amount of exertion by your muscles. While cardiovascular exercises like walking are certainly beneficial to the health, resistance exercises, even simple ones such as climbing up the stairs or doing push ups against a wall, have the added benefit of firming up your muscles and boosting your metabolism throughout the rest of the day — certainly benefiting your health and even your appearance.
 

4. Replace unhealthy foods with your favorite fruits and vegetables.

Sometimes, leaving out unhealthy foods from your diet seems painful because the healthy alternatives just don’t seem to compare in flavor. But surely, you have your own favorite fruits and vegetables, so why not make an effort to use them to replace the unhealthy foods in your diet?
For example, replace a bag of chips with a bowl of baked carrot sticks topped with fat-free cheese. Absolutely delicious!
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5. Let someone know that they’re doing good.

There’s hardly anything that compares with sharing positivity and reaping your own rewards from doing so. This is what letting someone know about the good that they’re doing does for others and perhaps, more importantly, for you.
And it doesn’t have to be big accomplishments. In fact, appreciating little things like a good meal prepared or a desk neatly arranged goes a long way in making someone feel good and making you realize how easy it is for you to contribute something positive to the world.

6. Smile when negative feelings are trying to take control of you.

Of course negative thoughts will try to creep into your mind daily — they’re normal. However, they don’t have to consume you and take over your mood for the whole day.
Often, the simple act of smiling, even forcing yourself to smile, brings positive thoughts to the surface and allows you to get back to your pleasant and most productive you.
 

7. Start your day by thinking about one good thing you can do for the day.

People often forget just how easy and important it is to do good. For example, it doesn’t take a lot of effort at all to segregate trash so that whatever can be recycled can be reused and not add to the world’s growing waste management problem. But why is it that so few people get around to starting the habit?
Usually, it’s just a matter of deciding to do good, and that’s what developing the habit of identifying a good deed to do each day fosters.
 

8. End your day by writing down one thing you were thankful for.

The line “It’s not about having what you want, but wanting what you have” says it all. Very often, the feeling of being unsatisfied with what you have is brought about by not realizing how valuable the things in your life already are.
If you make it a habit to write down one thing you’re thankful for each day, at that particular moment when you’re feeling unhappy or disappointed, glancing through your “grateful list” will uplift you and keep you solidly on the road to positivity and further self-improvement.

Five Lessons You Should Know If You Want To Be A Winner

Recently, we all watched as college basketball teams vied to become the country's best in the annual March Madness tournament. And in April, pro baseball teams are beginning their season to see who ends up as the World Series champ.
Isn't that one reason sports are so popular - after the dust settles, after the tournaments - the winner is always plain to see?
Here's another reason: we like to watch people face adversity and difficulties and then overcome them with skill, grace and determination.
Real estate agents can learn a lot from sports. Here are a few real lessons you should always remember if you seriously want to be a winner.
Lesson 1:
 Becoming the best takes hard work, time and dedication. The winning team that lifted the trophy at the end of March Madness had to go through seven other teams - all of which wanted desperately to send them home. Seven grueling games -- one after another - each team arguably better than the last. Think of the stamina needed just to stay in contention, much less to win. Don't expect your rise to the top to be any easier in real estate. You have to fight, claw and scratch.
Lesson 2:
 You have to know your stuff. Again, the team that makes it to the finish line can't be a fake. It has to prove itself game after game. If the team is a phony, it'll show up in the face of stiff competition. One of the most important things you can bring to the table is your real-life market knowledge and expertise. As you increase your market knowledge, your confidence will grow and you'll win the trust of your clients.
Lesson 3:
 You must be flexible when things get tough. The one thing I can say with all the certainty I can muster is that some days things will not go as planned. It's the same in sports. Good teams face other good teams that sometimes throw them off their game - temporarily. And the word temporarily is key. Winners never get so ruffled that they can't perform. In fact, when they face really tough fights, they're able to take their game to new and better levels. They're always willing to bend and be open-minded to find solutions instead of wallowing in self-pity.
Lesson 4:
 Learn from your mistakes. This is a close cousin to lesson 3. We know there will be mistakes. That's a given for all humans. Most of us make them every day. But what sets the winners apart is that they're not afraid to look at their mistakes under a microscope, dissect them and learn from them. You can bet after a hard fought battle on the court, good coaches point out mistakes and then help players draw lessons from them. Learn to squeeze out the positives from every mistake.
Lesson 5:
  You must have a sense of direction. Winners always know where they're going. The winning team looked at the empty champion slot listed on the tournament bracket and said, "This is where we're going. This is what we want more than anything." What's your empty slot - your destination for 2014? Is it the Top 50 listings? 100? 300? Pick it and lift your sail and maneuver it as needed. Never be caught just going where the wind blows and hope things work out. Take control of your destiny.
Commit to become the best, and you'll be the one lifting the trophy at the end of a record-breaking year.
Let me hear from you. Which of the lessons stands out and speaks to you? Where can you improve so that you're more likely to achieve your goals this year? Are you taking time to think about how you can be a better agent day after day?

Thursday, April 10, 2014

Sharpen your thinking

“Give me six hours to chop down a tree and I will spend the first four sharpening the axe.”        

                                                –Abraham Lincoln
Research shows that critical thinking is a key leadership skill for today’s organizations. Good critical thinking can lead to better decision making and problem solving for leaders and their teams. In a recent study by the American Management Association, nearly 70% of respondents ranked it as the most important skill for helping grow their organizations.
As leaders, we are all being asked to make increasingly complex decisions and to solve unique problems. That’s why it is so important to make sure we sharpen our critical thinking skills and make sure we are using the best tools at our disposal.  Next week I’ll be working with leaders at one of our campuses to help them better understand their preferred approaches to problem solving and decision making and introduce them to a critical thinking model featured in a new book, called Now You’re Thinking by Judy Chartrand et. al.
In a nutshell, the model highlights 5 steps to better critical thinking, which any leader can begin using right away, whether you need to work with your team to solve a unique problem or make a complex decision. Here’s the short and sweet version:
5 Steps to Critical Thinking
1.      Stop and Think
Take time to reflect and set direction. Ask: What are we trying to accomplish? What is going on here? Is the situation urgent? Is it important?
2.      Recognize Assumptions
Distinguish facts from opinions and check for implicit assumptions. Make sure you are solving the right problem. Ask: What do we know about the situation? What don’t we know? What are the important facts? Opinions?
3.      Evaluate Information
Evaluate the range of information available to you. Ask: What information is needed? Is it relevant and accurate? What key factors or criteria will lead to a successful outcome?
4.      Draw Conclusions
Draw a conclusion that logically flows from the previous steps. Ask: Does the conclusion fit the evidence? Achieve my/our goals?
5.     Plan of Action
Create a plan of action that will help people move forward to achieve the desired goal. Ask: What processes need to be developed to achieve our goal? What resources are needed? How will we communicate our plan? How will we monitor and evaluate progress? What is our Plan B, if this solution or decision does not work out as planned?
I like this critical thinking model because of its simplicity and ease of use. However, it is just one of the tools available to leaders to arrive at better decision-making and problem solving. What tools have you used to sharpen your axe and improve the quality of your decision making? What would you recommend to other leaders?

Tuesday, April 1, 2014

Mindset in Breakthrough Innovation Exploration vs. Exploitation

When a company stumbles upon a breakthrough innovation with great potential, should it explore the possibilities or exploit it for maximum profit?
This article aims to elaborate the explorative vs. exploitative mindset explored in Matte’s article “What Makes Breakthrough Ideas Successful?”
Challenges of Breakthrough Innovations
Breakthrough innovations will not progress beyond initial stages in an exploitative development process because of its characteristics.
Some of the challenges outlined by Mattes regarding breakthrough innovations are:
-Need for recognition of new opportunities
-High uncertainty
-Development of new business models
-Acquiring new resources
An exploitative mindset will have difficulty getting around a breakthrough innovation because it challenges established traditions and expectations. On the contrary, an exploration mindset does not rely on typical KPIs (Key Performance Indicators) and is therefore more open to possibilities that a breakthrough innovation presents.
Aspects Exploration Mindset Exploitation Mindset
Uncertainty/Risk Profile High Low  to Moderate
Target Markets New markets Existing markets
Marketing Goals Transform current industries or discover new ones Refine and improve competitiveness within current markets
Innovation Goals Introduce new technologies, products, or services Optimize existing products, services, or business models 
Uncertainty vs. Reliability
Because breakthrough innovations are characterized by high uncertainty, management needs to be open and flexible rather than dictated by rigid rules. Tasks should be broadly defined and should not require highly specialized skills. Remember, the goal is to come up with something new – even something that will require a new set of specialization skills. The telephone created a new industry and necessitated the training of a whole new workforce with it. So did airplanes and the invention of the original iPhone. A management style bent on reaching certain goals through time-proven processes will be bewildered with breakthrough innovations and its challenges.
High Risk vs. Safe Bets
Breakthrough innovations are high risk ventures because it necessitates the recognition of new windows of opportunities. It challenges time-tested, traditional product bases with no past performances to rely on. The exploration mindset makes room for new business models. Breakthrough innovations should be nurtured in a management style that is open to risk-taking and experimentation.
Teamwork vs. Individual Effort
In contrast to a highly controlled environment, an exploration management style relies on intensive collaboration in order to come up with the best possible innovation.
Moreover, an explorative mindset ensures rewards and recognitions go to teams, not individuals. Whereas an exploitative mindset elevates the person with the yellow jersey, the exploration mindset gives the medal to the whole team. This is in line with the explorative management style’s dependence on collaboration and teamwork.
Hierarchical vs. Decentralized Management
Input and rigid instructions from superiors therefore are not what drive the development of a breakthrough innovation. The highly hierarchical chain of command is replaced by a decentralized management in an explorative mindset.Communication among the individuals and groups involved shifts from vertical to horizontal.
More Efficiency Does Not Exist
In a nutshell, an exploitation mindset relies on efficiency to meet its goal – to make as much profit from existing technologies and markets. However, efficiency is not the key to innovative progress. As Jorge Barba puts it, more efficiency doesn’t exist. New markets and industries are not discovered because a product or service was perfected in efficiency in doing what it does. On the other hand, new markets are discovered by breaking out of the ordinary and traditional. A breakthrough innovation is valuable precisely because it is unprecedented, and it will take an explorative mindset instead of an exploitative one to help it reach success.

16 rules To Help Propel your start-up’s growth


Starting a business usually tests the founder in ways they were not expecting. I was certainly no exception when I started Coffee Nation in late 1996.
It was not until 1999 that I had discovered the right combination of product, pricing, location and business model that set us on our way and enabled us to raise the funding we needed and land our first major roll-out contracts.
It was an exciting time but it was also a time of great change for me. Very few founders go on to make it as great CEOs, particularly if it is a high growth business. The skill-sets can be so different. It’s often this challenge that keeps so many businesses small which is a great pity. I need not have worried as I was to lead the company for the next eight years until it was sold.
Here are 16 things I learnt that I believe are essential if you are going to see your young start-up flourish into a high growth mid-market tiger:

1. Don’t be alone

The experienced, objective and dispassionate adviser / chairman / non-executive director (mentor) can make for a powerful combination with the passionate yet inexperienced entrepreneur who is not always as objective as is required. It’s someone to talk to and vent your frustrations at – safely.

2. Hire a high calibre senior leadership team

You need one of these if you are serious about growth. Too many founders think they can do it virtually by themselves or employ junior managers and expect director level results. Recruit for greatness.

3. Challenge

It is no longer all down to you and if your leadership team is motivated by long term growth in the value of the company then it’s likely they now own part of it too. You have to respect their views and listen to their advice. Expect to be challenged. If you aren’t something is wrong – you have a weak team or you are overbearing. Both are equally dangerous.

4. Learn to lead not manage

This means you have to build a great leadership team and then let them get on with it. Your role as CEO & founder is to provide the direction and uphold the vision and focus – through the ups and downs. Pick the right people and they’ll build a great company for you. Too often, a promising young business is stifled because the founder cannot make the leap from being the nexus of all decisions to leading a team. More of what got you here is not what will get you to where you want to get to. You have to let go and delegate, not over manage.

5. Trust

I trusted my fellow directors 100% that they always had the best interests of Coffee Nation at heart. We had a simple vision and were always aligned. Of course, we didn’t always agree but that is healthy.

6. Style

I was quite a force of nature when I launched Coffee Nation – I was on a mission and had to shout loud to gain entry to some of Britain’s biggest companies. I was quite a funky guy in my early thirties and loved being me. But I had to learn that this might put some people off – my style and approach had to flex with my audience as time went by. The CEO of a growth company has to display a level of sophistication often beyond the awareness of the start-up founder.

7. Pay attention to the small stuff

By this I mean remuneration policies, organisation structure, proper performance reviews and all manner of leading your people the way you would want to be led. Invest time and energy in this and make it your mission for your business to be great to be part of. I know lots of people who have left fast-growth companies because of shortcomings in these critical areas.

8. Vision and focus

As CEO you must never lose sight of the end game and the change you are bringing to the world. Make sure no one else in your company forgets it either. A great vision gets the hairs standing up on the back of people’s necks – it’s not a made up corporate mission statement. It can only come from the heart.

9. Opportunities and distractions

I was recently with a CEO who was forever acquiring other businesses – his rationale was that as opportunities they were too good to miss. However, he readily acknowledged that knowing what to do with them once he had acquired them wasn’t always so easy. How did they fit together as a whole and did he have the management breadth and capability across his business to build out from there? It’s maybe a fine line but beware distractions lurking as opportunities. Know what business you are in. High growth is usually about finding the line of least resistance and then exploiting this relentlessly.

10. Push down

Allow people to have a go and use their initiative without fear of what happens if they get it wrong. Encourage people to be big at all levels in your business. Make leadership exist throughout not just at the top. Your aim must be capability in depth.

11. Use great coaches and mentors throughout

Aim to promote from within wherever possible.

12. Be strong

Take decisions and lead your team. Don’t delay decision making or procrastinate. It’s not all easy or fun but you will feel better about yourself when you face up to the difficult situations. Others will notice and respect you as a leader. This extends to you. If and when the time comes that you believe someone else could better lead your company on the next leg of its journey take that decision too.

13. Passion

You can never let up on this. I remember a time when my personal energy had dipped – I had been flat out for several years and it seemed like progress had slowed. I felt like I had reached a plateau. I looked at all that we had achieved and where we had come from and re-grouped. I took a short break. I came back more passionate and determined than ever.

14. Finance and funding

Don’t hold your company back through fear of external funding or the finance function. We had recruited a top flight finance director so we always knew where we stood financially. Banks, private equity and asset finance firms all commented on the quality and rigour of our accounting function which gave them confidence when setting out proposals of funding for the business.

15. Values

It can be easy to compromise these when you are under excessive pressure. I have convinced myself, for example, that someone is great for the job despite some nagging doubt. Whenever I ignore the doubts – I get to live them out for real. I remember some years ago in my consulting business making a poor recruitment choice – the candidate was convenient as I was under time pressure but culturally was a big clash. He lasted three months and I had a repair job to do with our clients. Lesson learnt.

16. Be relentless

The sharper the focus the easier this is. If you have been fortunate enough to identify and create a new market category do not let go of it. Do everything you can to underpin your leadership of the space you are in. No matter how good the Coffee Nation model if our machines weren’t running 24/7 we’d fail. We couldn’t get the service level we needed from third party maintenance providers so we moved the company and built our own maintenance function. This wasn’t in our original plan but served to strengthen the core.
Finally, always be genuine with people and keep it professional – inside and outside the business.
Leading a growing company is a demanding role but growing as a leader and as a chief executive can be just as rewarding as the growth of the company itself. I wish you well.

20 Habits That Will Make You Highly Successful

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The most successful people in the world are the most motivated – correct?
Not entirely.
It isn’t motivation that creates success, but habit and action. The most successful people in the world definitely have passion for what they do, but passion that isn’t accompanied by action is rendered useless.
It is your habits, more than anything, that will lead to your eventual success.
If your days are dominated by habits that help you on your journey to success, you’ll one day find yourself exactly where you want to be, doing what you want to be doing, earning what you want to be earning.

20 Habits That Will Make You A Success


1. Don’t define success with a dollar amount, but in relation to your happiness.

The habit of defining success with a dollar amount will lead you to constantly chasing a higher price point. It’s a chase that will never end, and a view of success that will never be attained. Get in the habit of seeing your success and your happiness in the same light.

2. Read before you write or work.

Reading a good book will get the creative juices flowing, the brain learning, and your knowledge base growing. Try reading for 30 minutes to start your day.

3. Wake up at the same time everyday.

Having a good sleep routine will help you have more energy to do more work during the day.

4. Always finish your to do list.

Get in the habit of never leaving anything that you wanted to finish at the beginning of the day, incomplete at the end. If you simply do what you set out to do, it will be hard for success to elude you.

5. Keep your to do list small and scaled.

Have 1 or 2 things that are important to finish, and make sure you finish them first. The rest of your tasks should be tended to only after your most important ones have been completed.

6. Keep two journals; one for your planning, scheduling, and work.

The other for your big ideas, thoughts, and goals. Writing stuff down makes it real and tangible. A to do list, a goal, or a dream, that isn’t written down isn’t yet real.

7. Measure everything.

Every goal you set needs to be measured. Every sales page you create, needs to be measured. If you measure everything you’ll have a blueprint for exactly what does work, and what doesn’t.

8. Stick to 90-minute work sessions.

Few people actually work as much as they say they work. Their time is usually made up of distractions. They Facebook, Tweet, and surf the interwebz. Time your work sessions. Keep a stopwatch. Focus for 90-minutes, take an active break, then get back to the beautiful grind.

9. Take active breaks.

A work break should enhance your working experience. It can’t – at all costs – take away from it. So do something active that will get your blood pumping and your mind working as effectively as it was when you first started working in the wee hours of the morning.

10. Wake up early.

The list of successful people who wake up before the rest of the world is far too long to list. This isn’t a coincidence. Get up before 6 am, 7 days a week and get a head start on your day and your dream.

11. Put your family first.

Success can’t exist without family – even if that “family” is simply loved ones and friends. You need to be working for a greater purpose than your own monitory gain if you’re going to accomplish true success.

12. Work harder than your competition.

If you work harder than everyone else, success can’t hide from you. You will find it. And you will enjoy it.

13. Use a board.

Use a big white board to keep your goals visible and close.

14. Share your dream.

Get in the habit of talking to others who have a similar dream, even if the similarity is the enormity of your goals, and the audaciousness of your plans. Napoleon Hill coined this relationship “a mastermind”, and it’s one of the most important factors in your eventual success.

15. Only surround yourself with successful people.

That is, don’t have “suckers” in your midst – people who will tear you away from your work, and destroy your dream. If you have friends that do this, stop hanging out with them. Are they worth you living a mediocre life when greatness can be in your future?

16. Keep a healthy body.

Without a healthy body it becomes evermore difficult to maintain a healthy mind.

17. Spend your money only on things that will propel your dream.

Cars, “things”, are only good for boosting your image in an effort to impress people who you really don’t want to impress. Spend money, instead, on your own development and your business to fuel your growth.

18. Make a sacrifice.

Get in the habit of sacrificing things that you may like in your life, for things that will help you become a success. The road to greatness isn’t one of excess spending and easy living. Hustle. Focus. Sacrifice. Succeed.

19. Review your journals every month.

A journal can bring you clarity when you write in it, but it’s far more powerful when you get in the habit of reviewing it.

20. Write down 3 things you’re thankful for every day.

What you’ll find is that success is often in your midst if you look at it from the right perspective. And study after study has shown that happy people achieve far greater things than pessimistic, unhappy individuals. This habit, combined with hard work, is as simple a recipe for success as you can create. It’s also an effective one.



If your habits are those of a successful, happy, productive, hard-working person, there’s no way that you can’t be successful. Make your success unavoidable by changing your habits.

What To Do When You Want To Give Up


When you shoot for the stars you risk falling flat on your face; and while you may bounce back quickly the first time, for many, it becomes more difficult to rise again when the pathetic results don’t match the tremendous effort.
Winston Churchill said, “Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm”.
Well what if you have lost enthusiasm?
What happens if you have hit rock bottom and want to give up?
Consider these four strategies before you throw in the towel:

1. Learn the lesson

What’s the point of experiencing the pain of failure if you’re not going to capture a valuable lesson from it? The more you’re willing learn from failure, the less it will intimidate you. When you experience those slumps, refuse to sell yourself the sob story of, “It’s because I’m just not good enough”, or “It’s just not meant to be”; you don’t learn lessons from that kind of self-talk! Instead, focus on improving your strategies; “What am I doing wrong?” or “How can I stay more focused?”
Questions to consider:
-       How can this set back make me stronger?
-       What can I learn from this failure?

2. Revisit your motivation

When things are bad, negativity will keep you from seeing things as they really are. Rather than focusing your attention on all of your deficiencies, take a few minutes to reflect on why you decided to take this journey in the first place. Keeping things in perspective will give you the strength to keep your head up and run against the wind.
Questions to consider:
-       What do I want to accomplish?
-       How do I want to be remembered?
-       What do I want to become in the process?

3. Make a plan

Its been said,
“Without a plan, there’s no attack. Without attack, no victory.”
The key to triumph is to plan for it.  Rock bottom is the perfect place to start building, so while you’re down there, design the blue print for your future success.
Questions to consider:
In order to be successful…
-       What do I need to start doing?
-       What do I need to stop doing?
-       What do I need to continue to do?

4. Keep it simple

Refuse to fall into the trap of trying to make up for all of your mistakes at one time. If your plans for success require a complete mental and behavioral overhaul—start small. Focus on one thing you need to improve, and develop it until it becomes a habit; then move on to the next one. When you’re starting over, you need to recommit to focusing on the process; and if you consistently do so, the results will follow.
Questions to consider:
-       What are my priorities?
-       What can I control right now?
If you’re currently lying on the canvas listening to the referee counting you out; take courage in knowing that anyone who’s ever achieved great things has experienced the pain of being knocked down—so you’re in good company. Take a deep breath. Get up. Get going.

The Spirit Of The Age



"Society is an illusion to the young citizen. It lies before him in rigid repose, with certain names, men, and institutions, rooted like oak-trees to the centre, round which all arrange themselves the best they can. But the old statesman knows that society is fluid; there are no such roots and centres; but any particle may suddenly become the centre of the movement, and compel the system to gyrate round it, as every man of strong will, like Pisistratus, or Cromwell, does for a time, and every man of truth, like Plato, or Paul, does forever."  

--- Ralph Waldo Emerson, "Politics"
 

It is almost an axiom that the sins and failings of earlier epochs are always clear to our mind, but that our own are at best hazy. The greatest tax on our understanding is why the obvious wasn't so obvious to our ancestors and forefathers. Mustn't they have known that the extermination of indians was an unspeakable evil, that oppression in all its forms was an abomination? Mustn't the odor of hypocrisy have reached their nostrils when they spoke proudly of "inalienable rights," "the rights of man," "fraternity and liberty," "equality of all"? Wasn't there a head of state who winced just a little when killing and brutality were presented as "civilizing acts" or spoken more vainly as "manifest destiny"?
We forget that our predecessors, too, could look back on history from a superior vantage point, mindful of the folly and inhumanity of their predecessors, proud of the piecemeal gains made in their day. We also forget that our own age will be the object of moral and aesthetic scrutiny, and that a new era with fresh vision will see most clearly everything to which we are presently blind.
One lifetime may be too brief for human intelligence to surmount those practical interests which preclude a more impartial rendering of things. Collegial loyalties, institutional affiliations, equity relationships, ideological kinship, the internalization of social norms and, not least, self-interest cloud the larger picture. It is the job of moralists and social critics to anticipate how successive generations will see us and judge us, and to inquire into the transcendental aspects of that future wisdom.
The history of the twentieth century is already being written, but by men and women who were produced by it. The texts of today will doubtless see many cycles of revision, and those that are finally fused into the consciousness of our progeny will read very differently than they do now.
What will the prevailing judgment of our age be two or three centuries from now? Anyone's guess is as good as mine, but I suspect that historians and intellectuals will look more critically upon our market economy than most of us today do, and challenge our prevalent notions about the good life. Their stream of consciousness might resemble some version of the following:
 
I. Homogenization Of Identity: The Way Of The Beast
"With what pride did the world's pre-eminent military and economic power congratulate itself for being so diverse, so individualistic. Too few noticed that this diversity and individualism was largely exaggerated, that the capitalist Beast could take any diversity and turn it into a product, a magazine, a radio or television talk show, a Disney film; it could derive profit from such diversity and quickly make it an orthodoxy. It could laugh in the face of anyone who thought himself superior because, alas, everyone was, at bottom, the same: a buyer, a seller, a consumer, an ego that defined its worth by the Beastly yardstick. 
"The Beast was sophisticated and cosmopolitan. It could stand to listen to the most pointed, most incisive, most energized and impassioned protestations against it, for it knew something that its vociferous opponents did not: that every impulse and passion, every idea and conviction, every idiosyncratic trait or talent could be assigned a pricetag and sold to someone, and that often the most appealing product was the one that was the most scathing, the most original and thoughtful, the most revolutionary and visionary. All self-styled radicals, be they hippies, greens, socialists, feminists, or anarchists also served the Beast, in one way or another. They, too, had a slice of the market, sought fame and money and recognition, yearned to appear before the Beast's television cameras. The loud protest against economic injustice and poverty and social disintegration and alienation was merely another product, albeit one of a different shape and color. Ideas without salesmanship and marketing do not pay the bills, and few, if any, human beings have the moral fiber to live a long life in poverty. The Beast understood this better than anyone. He was too familiar with that human craving for attention and prosperity.
"The so-called men of God were as slavish to the Beast as anyone. Who among them called for the Beast's demise? Who among them was keenly aware that all the lovely temples and statues and paintings were subsidized by the Beast's many toilers? Who refused the Beast's lucre? And there were those positively ecstatic about the Beast, those who preached that prosperity and riches and glory would be his who simply accepted Christ -- forgetting, of course, that Christ arrived on earth to offer men an alternative. . .
"Few really understood that the owners of capital were as much enslaved as their workers; they, too, obeyed the laws of the Beast, genuflected before fame and money, fought most energetically for the Beast's right to exist, opposed the Beast's arch-enemy (socialism).
"In the end, many with a novel thought, a spiritual vision, a universal message, an independent mind were sucked up, drained of their originality and imagination, easily commodified and homogenized. They became rich and famous and widely adored, but they had nothing useful to say anymore, their revolutionary zeal having been sapped, their place at the table of success having been won. They became as bland as a toaster oven, as marketable as a red, shiny automobile.
"There is much more to be learned about the Beast and what happened to him, but this on another day. . ."
 
II. Axiological Primitiveness
"Once upon a time people lived in close proximity. They knew one another, were interested in one another, saw their lives as meaningfully intertwined. Neighbors got together over tea or coffee. Kids would play with other kids in backyards. People felt some type of comraderie and association. Meaning they construed as either religious faith --- trust, however inchoate, that the beautiful world was created by a benevolent deity --- or as an earnest life filled with good works and acts of charity.
"By the end of the twentieth century, much of it had changed. People worked most of the time (six days a week at least, 50 or 60 hours a week on average). They were as likely to see others as 'transactions,' as means to ends, as they were ends in themselves. They were as likely to communicate with others over a computer screen as they were face to face, to 'chat' by typing phrases in a tiny rectangular box to people likely to be as far away as an entire continent. They were more apt to sit in front of a television set with five hundred channels than socialize with neighbors, distant relatives, office co-workers. A broadcast four thousand miles away was as likely to seem 'real' as a morning conversation at a diner. A fake television personality was as likely to be a friend as someone encountered in a club or in church. An e-mail acquaintance might easily be seen as a romantic possibility or as a sexual fantasy.
"Possible factors in this increasingly impersonalized world: interstate highways (they scattered houses and neighborhoods); dissatisfication with cities, the desire to flee to the suburbs; the television, the PC, the Internet; the division of labor, which required ever greater levels of productivity and output.
"Increasingly, the circumference of shared interpersonal experience dwindled. The social center was occupied by corporate advertising, with which many isolated individual selves could identify in some way. People might not know much about their neighbor, and might not care, but they could learn enough by knowing which institution they were affiliated with, which car they drove, where they took their vacation, and how much money they earned.
"In time, everything 'public' was scorned: public schools, the public sector, national healthcare; everything 'private' was lauded: private schools, private property, the private sector. The richest, most powerful nation in history could put men on the moon, create the Internet, sequence the human genome, but not produce what might be called the engaged citizen, the person rather well informed about current events, deeply knowledgeable about history, and deeply inspired to right society's wrongs. 
"And what of the older notions of 'meaning'? Preoccupation with the unseen 'other world,' with God and heaven, gave way to obsession about financial portfolios, early retirement, the means to do everything fun and exciting. The more astute members of the clerisy and business world figured out, in their infinite sophistication, that meaning is partly a social convention, that ambiguity is the oxygen all social events breathe, and that the smartest course is to focus more on the careerist aspects of the game than on communicating anything likely to be seen as personal conviction. Of course, many members of the educated classes were convictionless, but that's beside the point. What was important was moving around in the right circles, making nice with people of status and distinction, aggrandizing one's name and reputation. 
"The masses, to paraphrase Thoreau, led lives of quiet desperation. They nestled contentedly in their abodes, satisfied that their many hours of laboring could yield them enough to pay the monthly cable bill and take home the newest kitchen appliance. They were no strangers to fecklessness, but with a spouse and kids and work and plenty of entertainment, they made do. An occasional prayer, irregular church attendance, and a solitary moment or two filled the void for them. 'Life,' they'd murmur, 'could be better, could be worse; 'tis only my business to labor onwards.'
"A strange era it was. Never had nature been so thoroughly figured out and mastered. Never had mechanical and technical problems received so many creative solutions. Never had so much been done, with the era's heroes and countless followers left to behold their many accomplishments, wondering, 'What now?'"

Thursday, March 27, 2014

The Way To Success; Discover And Harness Your Passion


Successful entrepreneurs have a mind set unlike others, but one thing that they have that is critical to their business venture ideas that becomes their million dollar ideas, and in creating successful business for themselves, they have PASSION!
Similar to lust and love, sometimes I believe we can get a bit confused with which is which, and it is not until we feel true love do we understand what it is. For example, in those younger years and thought to be in love only to find out many years later that all we were doing was living a state of lust during those premature dating years. Passion is similar, where you don't really understand it until we uncover it. I use the term uncover, mostly because we all have something we are passionate about lying deep within us, the problem is most of us just haven't unleashed it. We tend to never take the time to "stop and smell the roses" in our overwhelming day-to-day lives. We are in a world where we have to go, go, go, especially as entrepreneurial mothers, trust me I completely understand. It is not until we are in a situation that forces us to uncover or rediscover that passion (because we got so busy we stopped doing the things that brought us joy). These situations that cause us to pause and reflect sometimes happen forcefully. By forcefully I mean, we did not intend to manifest a situation that causes our lives to seem in that moment out of balance, possibly even create some chaos in our lives. This is why I believe in many cases when we go through difficult times, these situations are simply signs from the Universe telling us to slow down, and take notice of what is before us. When we take notice of these manifested circumstances our perspective on them changes, and we do not see them as difficult times, but more along the lines of simply lessons and awakenings that we must pay attention to (this is my new perspective after having experienced the latter). I believe, and from my personal experience if we do not take the time to learn and pay attention to these circumstances that we attract we tend to see them as bad times, or bad luck, and we begin to throw ourselves into a spiral of depression screaming "why, why me", making it much harder to see what the Universe is intending to show us – which is a good thing if we choose to change our perspective.
We are all born to be the best that we can be. We are all born to live lives filled with joy, passion and love, living fulfilling and amazing life experiences. This is our mission in life, and that is absolute!

Without heart, there can be no passion, no enthusiasm, no feeling of energy and no charisma.  A leader high on heart and emotional intelligence breeds victory.  A disheartened leader, doubtful and stressed, manifests loss.
– John J. Murphy, Leading with Passion

For a long time I thought I was following my passion, until one day I had that "aha" moment when I realized that as my role in my life had changed over the course of time, these changes were simply leading me towards uncovering my true passion. I kept resisting by simply ignoring the signs, and thought stubbornly to myself, I am passionate about my business, I have to be, I built it from nothing. Now just to be clear, I was passionate about the business I had started, but it wasn't the business itself, it was the things I was doing in my business. You see, I realized I was passionate about starting a business and that whole process of building something out of nothing, and making it successful, which I did. I was passionate about working with people, and creating partnerships and great professional relationships, helping them to grow their ideas and businesses. I was passionate about many of the things I was doing; I just needed to find a way to incorporate these elements into other avenues that allowed me to further express my passion.
So one day, I realized, I have chosen to be a mother, that is my role, the most important role I have, and I want to be a great mother, I want to be there for my children emotionally and physically whenever they need me. In that moment, I realized that my greatest passion in my current life was in being a mother. I continued to list all the elements that I also felt passionate about which forced me to begin connecting the dots. Why not blend being a mother with the business world, and this is when I began to have successful business ideas, these were unique business ideas that started to come to me readily. It was like once I connected the dots, and accepted my role as a mother as being a passion of mine, it all made sense. It's similar to people who have hobbies, and say "well it's just my hobby, I couldn't make a living doing this", but the reality is you could if it was your passion, it is what you are meant to be doing, begin to monetize it!

I feel I fought myself on discovering my passion for quite some time, and it was only because I allowed my ego to get in the way of this uncovering. I didn't want to believe that being a mother could possibly be a passion, and least of all something I could somehow blend with my business world. But once I did make this realization some great entrepreneurial ideas where unleashed and all these innovative business ideas began to flourish. I (or my ego) wanted to believe that the business I was running was my passion, but it wasn't, although there were many elements that I was doing that were inline with my passion, I had to take the time to dissect it and uncover some amazing insights into who I was.

What led me to this "aha" moment, was simply realizing that I was unhappy, I wasn't as successful as I imagined myself to be, I felt unfulfilled, I felt under valued, I knew I had so much more potential in me, and I wanted to feel amazing.

What you are thunders so loudly that I cannot hear what you say to the contrary.– Ralph Waldo Emerson.

I remember listening to the radio one day, and they were interviewing the infamous Snoop Lion aka Snoop Dog. They asked him what he believed the purpose to life was; I was expecting everything but the response he gave. He responded: "to use the gifts God gave us"! Brilliantly spoken! It is up to us to uncover these gifts and use them, so that we can live fulfilling lives, as we were meant to and inspire other along our journeys.

Your next step is to uncover your gifts, and once you do, you will uncover your passion, and you will absolutely be one step closer to creating the life of your dreams. It is important to follow your passion, because it can take you where you never thought you would go. When you walk in the path of least resistance you can amount to great things, and affect those around you to create positive changes in their lives as well.  Be true to your passion, experience it, Live it and always be true to what you Love to do, because you will always be successful when you follow you heart.


Things which matter most must never be at the mercy of things which matter least. – Johann wolfgang von Goethe