In its ever increasing lust to keep our
attention focused on itself and control us, our egos often feel
threatened by those moments of bliss in which we are so totally
engrossed in another person or something larger that us that we pay no
attention to ourselves. The ego then finds a way to hijack that bliss by
suggesting a threat to the most precious parts of that it. It thus this
by suggesting that that which we value most in this moment cannot last
for example:
- Death when we are enjoying the company of those we love.
- Impending disaster when we are enjoying peace and solace.
- Betrayal, insincerity or manipulation when are are in a blooming relationship.
In a nutshell, a small voice gets us
worrying about the a possible time in the future when the precious thing
which now gives us bliss is no longer available to us.
I have wondered, how can I deal with this
device of the ego and I think the short answer is “presence and
mindfulness“ and here is what I mean:
First of all, realise like all
enlightened people do that “nothing lasts forever in this realm and even
the sun shall die.“. With that realisation, ask yourself “what can I
really do about this fear here and now?“ and you will realise that there
is nothing you can do now about that fear of something that may or may
not happen in the future. When you realise the utter futility of even
continuing to worry about it, you can then push that fear and worry out
of your mind and come back to the bliss of the moment.
In terms of practice, when the fear
arises, don’t flinch and try to block it off, instead, focus on it and
see it for what it is – a tool of the ego to take your focus off the
bliss in which it is not the center of attention and bring it back to
itself. By putting those dark thoughts and suggestions of fear to the
glaring light of conscious observation, they lose their power over us
and thus we can put them aside and return to the bliss of the moment.
Sure, the future might be uncertain, but
by staying present in the moment in enlightened awareness and
concentration, we can live an eternity in the protective hug of loved
ones, the effortless mastery in the execution of the task at hand, the
trusting and win-win collaboration of working with colleagues and the
time-defying, all-healing passionate kiss we are sharing with our lover.
Don’t let your ego ruin that moment.
How do you deal with such ego-grabbing? Please share.
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